Here's a question I've been thinking about for a while: why do women in relationships settle?
You all have that friend, the one who constantly complains about their boyfriend. He doesn't give them enough attention. He drinks too much. He acts differently when he's with his friends. They know he's shit, but they stay with him. Even when you tell them numerous times to dump his ass and find someone better. It becomes annoying to listen to because there's nothing else you can say. The guy knows he's treating her like shit. You know it, and she knows it. So why do they stay together?
Because they rely on him when they should be relying on themselves. The boyfriend, for whatever reason, gives them a sense of security. Just because they are "together" it gives her a safety net, should she ever need it. And because of this they won't break up. The guy has someone to fall back on when he's bored or needs a hook up, and the girl can at least say she has a boyfriend who "loves" her. When I was young, my mom told me something which I've since read in a book, The Perks of Being a Wallflower: "we accept the love we think we deserve." I strongly believe this holds true in every relationship. Women are ready to accept whatever love they get, even if it makes their lives a living hell.
I think it's not enough to be comfortable. You shouldn't accept those shitty relationships, or else you will truly deserve them. Don't be afraid to dump that jerk because he ignores you most of the week. Find someone worth your time, but before you do realize that you are incredible in your own right. You have dreams and goals and if you're determined no one can stand in your way. Realize what you truly are: someone special. You are someone who deserves to be treated like a princess. Don't settle for less.
